{"id":3187,"date":"2018-05-09T13:30:29","date_gmt":"2018-05-09T11:30:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sboverseas.org\/?p=3187"},"modified":"2018-05-09T13:30:29","modified_gmt":"2018-05-09T11:30:29","slug":"no-choice-left-for-a-girl-but-to-marry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sboverseas.org\/fr\/no-choice-left-for-a-girl-but-to-marry\/","title":{"rendered":"Pas d&#039;autre choix pour une fille que de se marier..."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Personne n&#039;\u00e9chappe \u00e0 la guerre sans changement. Qui peut perdre le pass\u00e9 et l&#039;avenir \u00e0 la fois sans porter de cicatrice ? Les jeunes et les moins jeunes sont marqu\u00e9s, bien que pour la plupart, ces marques prennent des formes invisibles.<\/p>\n<p>Nadine souhaite que le sien soit moins apparent. Les br\u00fblures sur ses mains, son cou et son visage t\u00e9moignent de sa perte avant qu&#039;elle ne puisse dire un mot. Elle n&#039;a jamais eu l&#039;intention de porter l&#039;histoire de son village de cette fa\u00e7on, de devenir pour sa communaut\u00e9 un rappel indubitable de leur souffrance, mais elle n&#039;a pas eu le choix.<\/p>\n<p>Lorsque la guerre est arriv\u00e9e en Syrie, il n&#039;a pas fallu longtemps pour que les bombardements atteignent m\u00eame son paisible village. Si jamais elle parvient un jour \u00e0 oublier \u00e0 quoi ressemblaient les explosions, elle n&#039;oubliera pas ce qu&#039;elles ont ressenti sur sa peau.<\/p>\n<p>Sa famille a fui au Liban il y a quatre ans, s&#039;installant \u00e0 contrec\u0153ur dans le squelette d&#039;un b\u00e2timent inachev\u00e9 et abandonn\u00e9 o\u00f9 ils vivent \u00e0 nouveau parmi leurs voisins de leur ville natale en Syrie - maintenant au milieu des ordures et de la poussi\u00e8re au lieu de l&#039;air doux et des champs verts. Leurs petites pi\u00e8ces sont \u00e9touffantes en \u00e9t\u00e9 et glaciales en hiver, mais ils quittent rarement l&#039;abri, se sentant d\u00e9plac\u00e9s dans le reste de la ville.<\/p>\n<p>Nadine a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 fr\u00e9quenter l&#039;\u00e9cole, o\u00f9 elle \u00e9tait confiante et bavarde en classe. Cette \u00e9ducation lui a permis de progresser en arabe, en anglais, en math\u00e9matiques et en sciences et de rattraper rapidement des ann\u00e9es d&#039;\u00e9cole manqu\u00e9es depuis son d\u00e9part de son village, o\u00f9 son \u00e9cole avait \u00e9t\u00e9 bombard\u00e9e. Elle excellait dans son travail scolaire et \u00e9tait plac\u00e9e dans les classes les plus avanc\u00e9es. Outre les universitaires, Nadine et d&#039;autres filles de son \u00e2ge ont suivi des cours d&#039;art \u00e0 l&#039;\u00e9cole avec un artiste syrien qui les a encourag\u00e9es \u00e0 s&#039;exprimer : leur exp\u00e9rience de jeunes filles, leurs ambitions et leur pays, renfor\u00e7ant ainsi leur estime de soi.<\/p>\n<p>Elle a dit \u00e0 ses amis et professeurs qu&#039;elle ne voulait pas se marier \u00e0 un \u00e2ge pr\u00e9coce, comme le faisaient certains de ses pairs. L&#039;\u00e9cole \u00e9tait importante pour elle et elle pr\u00e9voyait de terminer ses \u00e9tudes avant de se marier. Elle se marierait apr\u00e8s avoir termin\u00e9 ses \u00e9tudes universitaires, a-t-elle d\u00e9clar\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p>Mais il y avait un gar\u00e7on qui vivait dans le m\u00eame refuge que Nadine aimait bien, et cela inqui\u00e9tait ses parents. Ils avaient peur qu&#039;il demande le mariage et qu&#039;elle se retrouve coinc\u00e9e dans des conditions comme celles-ci pour le reste de sa vie : entre les murs sales d&#039;un b\u00e2timent sombre dans une ville qui n&#039;\u00e9tait pas la sienne, un pays qui ne voulait pas d&#039;elle.<\/p>\n<p>Lorsque les parents de Nadine se sont souvenus de l&#039;espoir de son grand-p\u00e8re depuis son enfance qu&#039;elle \u00e9pouserait un certain homme de son village, ils ont agi rapidement. Il vivait toujours en Syrie. En quelques jours, ils ont renvoy\u00e9 Nadine pour l&#039;\u00e9pouser. Elle avait quatorze ans.<\/p>\n<p>Nadine est retourn\u00e9e dans une zone encore dangereuse, en proie \u00e0 la m\u00eame guerre qu&#039;elle avait fuie, aux m\u00eames bombes qui avaient failli lui co\u00fbter la vie.<\/p>\n<p>Et morceau par morceau, sa propre vie et son enfance ont continu\u00e9 \u00e0 lui \u00eatre vol\u00e9es.<\/p>\n<p>Lorsque son mari la vit br\u00fbler, il refusa de l&#039;\u00e9pouser. On lui avait dit qu&#039;ils \u00e9taient moins visibles. Finalement, sa m\u00e8re l&#039;a forc\u00e9 \u00e0 \u00e9pouser Nadine parce qu&#039;elle \u00e9tait d\u00e9j\u00e0 retourn\u00e9e en Syrie pour accepter son offre. Ils n&#039;ont pas eu de mariage.<\/p>\n<p>Les amis de Nadine ont piti\u00e9 d&#039;elle car ils ont entendu parler des probl\u00e8mes du couple. Ils se demandent si son mari \u00e9pousera une autre femme, ou si elle sera bient\u00f4t divorc\u00e9e, mais son grand-p\u00e8re vit \u00e0 proximit\u00e9 en Syrie et ne voudrait pas lui permettre de renoncer \u00e0 un mariage qu&#039;il a demand\u00e9. Tous ceux qui vivent dans le refuge de sa famille savent que Nadine et son mari ne s&#039;aiment pas et qu&#039;elle devrait bient\u00f4t avoir des enfants. Mais elle n&#039;est qu&#039;une fille elle-m\u00eame.<\/p>\n<p>Et donc, encore une fois, sans choix, et cette fois d&#039;une mani\u00e8re qui n&#039;est pas si \u00e9vidente ext\u00e9rieurement, Nadine est devenue la gardienne de la douleur de son pays.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>No one escapes war unchanged. Who can lose the past and the future at once without bearing a scar? The young and old are marked, though for most, these marks take invisible forms. Nadine wishes hers were less apparent. 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